3 Dangerous Negative Words

There have been countless articles, seminars, books and discussions about the value of maintaining a positive attitude, and most of us would agree that it is far more productive to maintain a positive approach and frame of mind than either being neutral or negative. However, in our everyday lives and activities, we often, nearly automatically revert to permitting negativity pervade and dominate our consciousness. One of the best and easiest ways of training ourselves to approach life from a can - do, as opposed to can't do perspective, is to begin by concentrating on eliminating these three negative words (or phrases) from our oral and written vocabulary: avoid saying problem or thinking about scenarios as problems; never begin one's process by saying that you'll try; and don't focus on why it can't be done.

1. Instead of perceiving obstacles as problems, view them instead as challenges. Take a moment, close your eyes and think about the image that you perceive when you think about a problem instead of thinking of a challenge. Our perceptions of a problem is one of something to be avoided, that we want to evade or run away from, and is, at best, unpleasant and unhappy. On the other hand, when we think of an obstacle in terms of being a challenge, we often perceive of an experience similar to a sporting event, where overcoming the obstacle is invigorating, refreshing and fun. Would you rather face a challenge or a problem? While most people would objectively state that a challenge is better, when a perceived crisis or obstacle arises, most people revert to thinking about problem solving and having a problem. How can you be thinking positively if you consider yourself a problem solver?

2. When someone is asked to do something that he knows is worth the effort, or valuable to either himself or to others that he values, or both, we often hear people say, "I'll try." Unfortunately, the reality is that using the word, try, is actually a negative one, because it brings up thoughts of why you might not be able to get it done. Rather than trying, next time begin the process by saying, "I will."

3. When a new idea or approach is brought up that addresses a need, and therefore, requires either a change or some sort of action, the vast majority of people react by stating what is wrong with the idea, and why it can't be done or get done! Instead, approach and welcome needed changes with the philosophy, "Here's what I'm going to do to get it done."

We often read and speak about using positive affirmations to enhance our attitude. However, unless we change our vocabulary and mindset, it is often our negative words that are our worst enemies.